They’re the ones that actually have an overlay of an antisocial personality and paranoia. So that’s exactly what we’re talking about today – the standard pattern a narcissist will use when they lose control over you. You can suggest that they reach out for professional help, but you can’t make them do it. It doesn’t have anything to do with giving you anything. Because they have this narcissistic injury, and that injury is that scab, that little inner person, that frightened child. Identify the areas in which you will need to focus in order to. Or they might just try to punish you in other ways. And so if you reject them, then that’s, in some ways, the worst thing that could possibly happen for them. The less interaction there was, the less control they had. As it … They’re going to want to get you back. It’s like, okay, how can I suck value out of this person? How Does a Narcissist Handle Rejection or No Contact? So how does a narcissist handle rejection or no contact? But then you’re going to experience all of these things. Control, of course, is important to a narcissist. Because remember your value to a narcissist is just the value that you can bring to that. They’ll make stuff up as to why you need to come back and provide the necessary supply they are missing. Be happy, and be unencumbered by their toxic energy. And remember when I tell you this, that narcissists are the worst right before they’re getting ready to give up. What do narcissists do when you have figured them out? This is what we call the hoover maneuver – because they are literally trying to suck you back into the toxic relationship. So once you’ve already seen how they can be, don’t expect them to change. These are just five ways which answer the question of ‘how do narcissists control you’. Are you being financially abused by a toxic narcissist? And they will do whatever they can – almost literally anything within their power to make sure that they keep control over you. If that happens to you, thank your lucky stars. Don’t fall for it. If you cross them, they never want you to have a day of happiness without them. Here are five places to consider living when you’re planning to leave an abuser and/or a toxic relationship. Because most narcissists don’t take rejection and no contact in that way. Before you know what makes a narcissist panic, it’s important to understand narcissists’ weaknesses and how they think. Financial abuse might mean your options are limited. They will seem like they’re “worried about you” or just so “shocked you’d do something like this.” In other words, they’ll play this game in a way that makes it believable – which means your reputation will be ruined in no time. It is odd, as at other times in their life, they are always striving to be just that, ‘in control’. You … I was indignant. They don’t care about the feelings of others and want to dominate. The two things are exactly the same and as such an angry rant is sparked by both. Don’t buy it. And this didn’t end when I grew up and moved out. As a Top 1% attorney in the U.S., I have 20+ years of successfully dealing with high conflict personalities. You will be able to shut down a narcissist easier if you can accept their faulty perceptions of you. The cycles (and the victim) have ultimately become so boring or pathetic or weak to the narcissist that they don't care to engage anymore. When you move on from a narcissist, anger is the first thing you can expect in response. Understand that the narcissist knows perfectly well that they are hurting you. And if you react negatively to … So there’s a lot of people in this world, seven and a half billion people find other people to hang out with, find other people to be around. So they’re probably going to go after you. Many people have come to me and hold me how great their narcissist is at duping people, getting others to do and believe things, and how afraid they are that nobody will believe their side of the story- the truth.... Not only have I been witness to narcissists and their behaviors during the holidays as an attorney, I’ve also had to deal with narcissists during the holidays in my personal life. If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, they will expect constant admiration from you, they’ll seek to control you, they will separate you from your support system, and they’ll tolerate nothing less than lowering your self-esteem in order to boost theirs. Not as husbands, thank God, but as people who were close enough to me to wreak havoc and cause damage. Live like they don’t matter. Depending on what type of narcissist they are, they may get very angry or emotional. Subscribe to Rebecca's Youtube Channel for Ninja Tips on Negotiating with a Narcissist. Power and control The only way the pathological narcissist knows how to regain their inner equilibrium and get back to feeling safe in their make-believe world, is to re-establish control and power over you. Because you’re taking away, you’re snatching away that oxygen that they need, that narcissistic supply. If you can hold out and get through all of that stuff, you’ll finally be rid of the narcissist because, once their little bag of tricks is empty, they’ll ghost you. Take the time to recognize that you no longer need to give your power away to the narcissist. Remember— highly manipulative people don’t respond to empathy or compassion. It’s awful to deal with, but it’s definitely worse to continue to have that narcissist in your life. It doesn’t matter to them that they are already in a relationship. And I’ll drop a link to that below. Narcissists continue to gain control of the people in their life by eliciting difficult emotions. Because you’re taking away, you’re snatching away that oxygen that they need, that narcissistic supply. They do not have the capacity to understand that they are the problem; they will feel attacked by you bringing it up, and will defend themselves to the death. And as long as you’re bringing value to them, then you get to stay in their space. So a lot of times they choose empaths. I hope you understand how important it is to see a counselor to work through the history and specific issues. The very moment I realized what she had done, I almost physically felt something break inside of me – that seemingly indestructible cord of obligation that had always been there and had always caused me to bend to her will – it broke.